Wednesday, October 11, 2006

African Americans Should Date Outside Their Race by Akindele Akinyemi


I have no faith in Black Relationships in our community.

Sorry, but when I look at the numbers in our community there is no hope for successful relationships in our community.

We divorce higher than other races and we have the highest number of single parents anywhere in the country right here in Detroit.

We go to counseling, we go to the psychologist, we go to church and follow the Bible, we receive the Word and STILL we divorce, break up, etc.

We even go as far as looking at the Zodiac and STILL we do not prevail.

Are we lying to ourselves when we say let's wait and see what God has in store for us? Are we in some holding pattern? Are we so booked to the point where we do not have time to find love and happiness because we hide behind our pain by working long hours and face depression on our own? Some of us have been waiting a lifetime and two generations with no success.

What was the formula for our elders in our family of staying together for 50 years? Look at the late Ozzie Davis and Ruby Dee. They were married for 57 years before Ozzie passed on February 4, 2005 in Miami, Fla.

How come we do not have those success stories in our community anymore?

Some blame it on education while others blame it on drugs and the lack of financial support. But what I see in our community is even if we are on the same level financially and academically we still break up.

The reason that we break up is fear and paranoia. How the hell can you be friends with someone over a period of time, worship together and have the same, exact values, yet, when you want something deeper the other person back off? It's ridiculous. This is deeply rooted in fear.

Fear is the reason why relationships do not work. We are afraid to face our own demons as well as other people's demons. We hate to look at our own skeletons in the closet. Of all the church going people I know personally they will not commit to a person that they are crazy about, love secretly, etc. because of fear. They tell their girls, boys, etc but will not confront the person head on.

When I see young people together I hope for the best of them and encourage them to even marry at one point. But there are so many people out here just want to screw for the health of it and even Erykah Badu did not set a good example by just having children out-of-wedlock. But our sisters and brothers have children out of wedlock all the time at a young age and while we have a broken spiritual system in our community this lifestyle leads to welfare and poverty.

There was one point in time when I was a Black Nationalist I would frown on Black men who were married to White women and Black women married to white men. Nowadays, I can care less because perhaps the problem with us is that when we limit our happiness to a race of people we do not see the bigger picture. God created all of us with the same blood so what's the problem?

In other words, are we wasting our time just sitting for that sister who might not come? Are we wasting our time with a brother who will never come to Christ? Are we limiting ourselves by just dating inside our race while the world have given us something bigger to offer? There are Mexicans, Asians and White people to choose from and yet we are afraid to date outside our race because of Jungle Fever?

This is absurd. We should not limit ourselves to fell good tactics like we come from kings and queens of Africa when these same kings and queens are not willing to stay in a relationship for the long haul. Would you consider the spiritually confused a person you would want to get with? What about the brother who you look at in church who has nothing and have been very abusive in his last relationship but you like him because you feel you can change his life? What about the sister who has no education but want to get and will sleep with you if necessary to control you?

If we are not going to be honest with ourselves then we should be looking for someone outside the race who will take care of us. Does color really matter? Do we have to keep it real all the time on the outside and be miserable on the inside and hide behind the Bible and quote scriptures when in fact this is a smokescreen to hide your deep depression because you might feel you are getting older, do not have children and feel like you are on a biological time clock?

Do we have to always work harder for our sisters even though you have pulled yourself up from the bootstraps and have helped our sisters but when you want to be more than friends they run away or dodge the issue all together? The same with women trying to get with brothers?

There is no hope for Black Relationships because there is no hope for us. I find so many women who would rather be single because of the pain they have to endure and I am finding more men becoming single because the pool of intelligent, credible Black women is small. If there was hope we would not be playing ourselves in our community. Black men would come home at a decent hour and Black women would act decent in public and not berate their men in public.

If we cannot fix this with each other then we should date outside our race. Period.

10 comments:

FreeMan said...

El Hajj Malik El Shabazz -Malcolm X
"Message to the Grassroots" 11/10/63 Det., MI
American has a very serious problem. but our people have a very serious problem. America's problem is us. We're her problem. The only reason she has a problem is she doesn't want us here. Once you face this as a fact, then you can start plotting a course that will make you appear intelligent, instead of unintelligent.
You catch hell because you're a (B)lack ... . You catch hell, all of us catch hell for the same reason.
So we're all (B)lack people, so called Negroes, second class citizens, ex-slaves."

BLACK AFRIKAN GENOCIDE COOPTED PUPPET - BLACK AFRIKAN SELF HATRDE
Black Afrikans 4 Black Afrika!

akindele akinyemi said...

don't use a Mlaclom X quote on me when you don't even know the man's family!!!!!

It's people like you who try to keep young brothes like myself down.

Afrika for the Afrikans..and you are nowhere close to being that!!!!! Fool.

FreeMan said...

Coopted Puppet - Is it my fault that you demonstrate your Black Afrikan Self Hatred & desire for Black Afrikan genocide
Is it my fault that in ORDER FOR YOU TO INCREASE YOU MUST DESTROY YOUR OWN BLACK AFRIKAN PEOPLE WITH INDIVIDUALISM - SELFISHNESS - MATERIALISM & WHITE EUROPEAN SUPREMACY
Legally my birth certificate defines me as a "Negro" that is all the Black Afrikanness I need
If you were a Christian you would understand that you calling me a fool endangers your relationship with God "but whosoever shall say, Thou fool shall be in danger of hell fire." Words of Jesus Matthew 5:22
Black Afrika 4 Black Afrikans!

akindele akinyemi said...

Coopted Puppet - Is it my fault that you demonstrate your Black Afrikan Self Hatred & desire for Black Afrikan genocide

genocide and hatred? this demonstrates you only have a high schoole ducation because any fool can see we do this in the hood daily.

Is it my fault that in ORDER FOR YOU TO INCREASE YOU MUST DESTROY YOUR OWN BLACK AFRIKAN PEOPLE WITH INDIVIDUALISM - SELFISHNESS - MATERIALISM & WHITE EUROPEAN SUPREMACY

It is your fault. I increase by exposing the Black Nationalist lies and the socialist deception of keeping Black people enslaved. I was placed here on Earth to defeat slavery and to bring in a new world of thinking.


Legally my birth certificate defines me as a "Negro" that is all the Black Afrikanness I need

You have no connection to Afrika other than your skin color and that does not mean anything nowadays.


If you were a Christian you would understand that you calling me a fool endangers your relationship with God "but whosoever shall say, Thou fool shall be in danger of hell fire." Words of Jesus Matthew 5:22

You are a fool and I will have fun demolishing your self centered "africa" viewpoint on this blog as long as it takes!!!!!


Black Afrika 4 Black Afrikans!

FreeMan said...

Coopted Puppet God placed you on earth - but you may have made a deal when you became Coopted to serve the Beast the AntiChrist - 666 - New World Order -
Is the new way of thinking the only accepted way to think Fascist Racist AntiChrist Thought of the New World Order?
The Bible declares that the Beast the AntiChrist will force all the people of the earth to take the Mark of the Beast or they will not be able to buy or sell
The God of the Bible declares that Individualism - Materialism - Selfishness are UnGodly Characteristics
The God of the Bible will stand up for the People of the South - Afrika & protect His people who believe in Self Determination for Black Afrikans at the Last Day - Armageddon
I have Black Afrikan Blood & a Black Afrikan mind
I have not sold my soul for piece of heated flesh
Black Afrika 4 Black Afrikans

akindele akinyemi said...

Coopted Puppet God placed you on earth - but you may have made a deal when you became Coopted to serve the Beast the AntiChrist - 666 - New World Order -

no such thing as a new world order.

Is the new way of thinking the only accepted way to think Fascist Racist AntiChrist Thought of the New World Order?

that's crazy talk to keep blacks enslaved.


The Bible declares that the Beast the AntiChrist will force all the people of the earth to take the Mark of the Beast or they will not be able to buy or sell

do you have proof of this other than reading behold a pale horse by william cooper?


The God of the Bible declares that Individualism - Materialism - Selfishness are UnGodly Characteristics

yes they are so what's your point in sayign this? i don't understand.


The God of the Bible will stand up for the People of the South -

I though God stood up for those who believe in Him?


Afrika & protect His people who believe in Self Determination for Black Afrikans at the Last Day - Armageddon

wrong. I have no interest in seeing the end of the world.


I have Black Afrikan Blood & a Black Afrikan mind
I have not sold my soul for piece of heated flesh
Black Afrika 4 Black Afrikans

you sold it when you gave in to socialism.

FreeMan said...

Coopted Puppet - the Bible defines the Last Days in the books of Daniel & Revelation
The Bible declares that Christians will escape Armageddon through the Rapture
But the Bible declares that the Black Hebrew Children of Israel through a remnant will be protected by God throughout Armageddon
Yes the New World Order does exist - it was founded in 1776 in Germany
Bush II through his Yale University's Skull & Bones Fraternity is a primary recruiter of the New World Order - 666 - the AntiChrist - the Beast
The Bible defines a Godly Economic system where people share property equally & based upon need - Socialism is a Godly Bible Based Economic System
Black Afrika 4 Black Afrikans!

akindele akinyemi said...

what does that have to do with dating outside your race?

onetimememberofwof said...

Please shut this blog down, you only display your stupidity. Sir I am embarassed for you.

akindele akinyemi said...

then don't comment on here you fool. This blog is here for a reason...education.

now you are the same fool that bashes Keith Butler right? I wonder why?