We will never overcome the obstacles in our community if we do not begin to love one another. Love is the greatest commandment given to us by the Most High. However, we confuse love for sex and other material items that is irrelevant with our accomplishments as a community.
In the first Book of Corinthians 13:4-7 it states the following:
4. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love isn’t jealous. It doesn’t sing its own praises. It isn’t arrogant. 5 It isn’t rude. It doesn’t think about itself. It isn’t irritable. It doesn’t keep track of wrongs. 6 It isn’t happy when injustice is done, but it is happy with the truth. 7 Love never stops being patient, never stops believing, never stops hoping, never gives up.
The Holy Scripture speaks about how love is patient and love is kind. Of course, when we go outside our doors everyday and go to work people are concentrating on fear and hate. Not just hate but spreading gossip and rumors about you to tear you down. It is almost like they are children on the playground picking on you because you choose to be successful and you choose to strive for excellence.
In I Corinthians 13:11 we read this:
11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, thought like a child, and reasoned like a child. When I became an adult, I no longer used childish ways.
Ok, have we really put our childish ways behind us in our community? We have older men and women into their late 40s and early 50s acting like they are still teenagers. Still living paycheck to paycheck, living in their mother’s basement, no car and no ambition. This is called fear my brothers and sisters because they refuse to acknowledge that God loves them so much that he has placed everything for them to succeed in life. We have to let go of the fear because if we do not it will destroy us.
We talk about love but are we practicing love? Mayor Kwame Kilpatrick talked about building Detroit Love. What he meant by this statement was rebuilding Detroit by uniting communities and looking out for one another without fear and intimidation. I can agree with him on this because oftentimes we leave our communities because the love is not there.
Our children should be loved each and every day. When they act out in school or church, we should take the time to discipline them and let them know about why their actions were inappropriate and tell them you did this out of love.
I have launched the Genesis Project. This is a project that is directed to rebuilding families in our urban communities. We promote relationship building, making sure people are staying together for the right reasons and promoting marriages in our urban communities. Some may joke with me and say that this is the Nigerian coming out of me because traditionally African people are big on building solid relationships to keep the family moving. Whatever it is I want to contribute and show my own child that relationships do work if it is based on love.
80% of our homes are ran by a single parent (the mother). When I ask my brothers about marrying their child’s mother they tell me they cannot deal with her. My next question is how come she cannot deal with you? After all you are the reflection of her so what gives?
Guys, marry your women or at the bare minimum be committed to her. Fear is a trap and the faith of the Devil. We know the Devil is a liar and the truth does not exist in him, however, when you are afraid to love and commit to your woman you are giving the demon unlimited power. The only way you are going to prevent that is to start being unselfish and understand that the relationship is much larger than the two adults involved.
Brothers and sisters must begin to reach out and touch someone in need. Relationships often fail because of the lack of communication and in many cases, finances. Instead of having walls being built between the two of you have you ever thought about learning more about fianacial literacy and helping each other out when times are rough financially? I often tell my brothers to help your woman when a bill needs to be paid and do not look for anything in return. The reason? If you are in tune God will bless you abundantly. Hold your woman’s hand and vice versa. When she needs space to breathe you, as a man, should always be thinking about her and asking God to protect her from negative energy. Take the lead and build up your own character filled with love. The relationship will go further than you even anticipated. All because of love and patience.
I do not have a problem with people being single but show me in the Bible where it says being single is a completion of the family that God has set aside. I am also not advocating rushing into marriage because if you did not take the time to nurture one another to begin with that path will fail as well. Have fun learning about each other through love and patience.
Both men and women must open the doors of opportunities for each other for true love to flow. There should be a balance and when one person is weak the other must be able to give life and strength to the other. The days of running away from our problems are gone. The reason? The next generation of leaders are living with us right in our homes. We must provide a better example for our children if we are preparing to leave a legacy that will last over 100 years. My concern is always the children. We cannot be scared of the storms that lies ahead. That is why it takes two to build a kingdom here on Earth with God’s grace and mercy.
I always say hold on to a good brother or sister because even if that person has faults always seek the good in them. There is always good in someone, even when that person does not know it. Love them unconditionally and abundantly. Do not hate that person but love that person because love is greater than hate.
Have you called or e-mailed someone today to tell them you love them for caring and being patient with you? Have you told your children or family members you loved them? Have you made a serious commitment to transform your life because love is flowing through your spirit? Have you invited your loved one to church service lately to worship together? These simple things are going to help transform our community. It does not matter if you are a Democrat, Republican or Independent we all need love when times are rough and when times are peaceful.
We cannot be scared when God is moving us in the right direction. There is no room for individualism. Move together in the relationship as a team on love and respect.
Make an effort and tell someone you care and love them for who they are and what they stand for in life. That person on the receiving end will feel empowered and feel better about you and themselves.
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