Friday, June 06, 2008

A Real Situation On Marriage by Akindele Akinyemi


Changing the definition of marriage in our community would undermine the very nature that gives marriage its unique status in society. Ultimately, forcing marriage to mean all things will force marriage to mean nothing at all. If marriage becomes just one form of commitment in a spectrum of sexual relationships rather than a preferred monogamous relationship for the sake of children, the line separating sexual relations within and outside of marriage becomes blurred, and so does the public policy argument against out-of-wedlock births or in favor of abstinence.

For example, I find it interesting that 400 children were taken from a religious family in Texas illegally while California have given the green light for same sex marriages. Even my man from Star Trek (Mr. Sulu) is getting married to his boyfriend in California.

This demonstrates how advanced and ubiquitous is the government's assault on the family in our community. Most Blacks will brush it off an say "who cares about who marries who?" This is a clear indication of how far the Black family has fallen in our community. For those of us who claim that this is a smokescreen issue then we are clueless about the economic impact of marriage in our community.

Government is the worst enemy of family rights in our state. The fact that such matters now pervade our news should alarm and mobilize everyone to understand and resist massive government machinery that threatens both marriage and parenthood.

The reason why the homosexual community has rallied behind Sen. Obama's efforts to becoming president has nothing to do with his race but his policies. This is why I am puzzled about Black Republicans supporting him. We are falling for the hype instead of sticking to the script. If anyone should be on the frontlines of defending marriage between man and woman it should be Black Republicans and Urban Conservatives. If you want to find out what the homosexual community is doing in Metro Detroit then pick up a copy of Between the Lines magazine.

For example, how many people knew this was going on right in Detroit last week:

From BTL:

On Sunday, just hours before Motor City Pride kicked off, members of both organizations, as well as over 20 people from the community, met in Detroit's Palmer Park for Building Bridges, an unprecedented march of LGBT people and friends across Eight Mile Road and into Ferndale.

Sunday's Building Bridges march was the first of two. The second will take place during the black gay pride, Hotter Than July. That march will begin in Ferndale and cross back over Eight Mile Road into Detroit.

The purpose of the march, said Triangle Foundation Interim Executive Director Kate Runyon, was to bring together gay and lesbian people of all races and ethnicities to let go of their past fears, doubts and issues and move on as one. "The LGBT community is so complex and beautiful," Runyon said, addressing the crowd. "The one thing that draws us together is sexual orientation."

In the spirit of Building Bridges, the group marching was diverse in gender, race and age."We decided to come out here as a GSA field trip," said Jesus Murillo, 16, who came with two of his friends. "We felt as teenagers we should also strive for equal rights and acceptance among the community... . As a teenager, I feel that my voice should be heard."

Murillo and his friends all attend Churchill High School, and felt that it was important to be visible at the march as LGBT teenagers. They all participated in writing down things to let go of as well. Murillo said he wanted to let go of "Parents who don't accept their children for who they are."

"I wrote that I'm tired of being looked at as abnormal," added his friend Stephanie Cyburt, 15. "I'm not abnormal. I'm perfectly fine being who I am."

If Obama is elected as President he would support both the homosexual lobby and government's effort to redefine the family. 40 years ago, with no public debate or consultation, government not only redefined but effectively abolished marriage as a legal contract through "no-fault" divorce.

But when we look closer the homosexuals are not the only ones trying to redefine marriage because men and women who are heterosexual have been doing a wonderful job in weakling marriage by infidelity and irresponsibility which have lead to high divorce rates and single-parent families in our community. All we did was open the door further. While social conservatives complain about same sex marriages how many of these same social conservatives would allow their daughters to marry someone in their race or another race? Before we talk about the threat of same sex marriages in our community let's look at the threat to marriage by straight couples not wanting to get married or straight couples not staying married. I have yet to hear one conservative talk about this. It's easy to debunk this type of lifestyle but what are we doing to fix it?

In our community divorce is so high that the doors of homosexuality has been opened. Homosexual parenting is rooted deeply in the divorce revolution. In Detroit, it is so out of control that it is hard to even find someone who is straight, let alone someone TRUST someone. I visit churches in the Black community and I find it rare for preachers to promote marriages and relationship building from the pulpit. What is going on? Do our clergy understand that
making gay marriage a legal right will likely impose serious constraints on religious speech, assembly and worship?

Examples below:

  • On March 10, 2006, Catholic Charities of Boston quit providing adoption services when Massachusetts anti-discrimination laws forced them to allow married same-sex couples to adopt, which has been prohibited by church doctrine.
  • Swedish Pastor Ake Green was sentenced to jail in June of 2004 for one month having been found guilty of offending homosexuals in a sermon under Sweden’s law against incitement.
  • In April of 2004 it became illegal to publicly express disapproval of homosexual behavior in Canada under an amendment to the hate propaganda laws.
Also,
if homosexual relationships can be "marriages," homosexuality could be taught as a part of normal family structures. The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network has developed a curriculum to be incorporated in the public schools. For Example:

In Elementary School:

  • Daddy’s Roommate: "A young boy discusses his divorced gay father's new living situation, in which his father and father's partner share eating, doing chores, playing, loving and living."
  • Heather Has Two Mommies and its sequel: "Originally published in 1989, Newman created this simple story of a little girl and her two mothers..." The sequel explores the feelings of a "...child when his two mommies separate and break up the family..."

In Junior High and High School:

  • Revolutionary Voices: A Multicultural Queer Youth Anthology: "A creative resource for queer and questioning youth of every color... religion... [and] gender, [this is a] collection of experiences, ideas, dreams, and fantasies expressed through prose, poetry..." and creative pieces.
  • Rainbow Boys: "Three very different high school boys develop crushes, explore friendships, and discover love in this candid debut novel for adult audiences.
Now we have debates about gay parenting that are centered on the questions of children's welfare versus homosexual rights. The vast majority of children of gay "parents" are created not by sperm donors or surrogate mothers (like we have been told) but by divorce. Under "no-fault" laws, they can be removed from one of their natural parents through literally "no fault" of that parent. The child with "two mommies" probably had his father forced out of the family by divorce.

The way I hear proponents of gay parenting spin this issue is the high degree of child abuse. This is not the case. In fact, studies show how child abuse is most likely to occur in single-mother homes – homes of divorce or unwed childbearing. Yet we do not find child welfare officials encouraging intact families or the involvement of fathers. Why is that? When we look closer we see how social services is dominated by low-key feminists we being to convey how child welfare is characterized by a huge anti-father bias, to the point where spurious child abuse accusations are routinely used to remove fathers during divorce proceedings. Children are then confiscated from single mothers on similar accusations, valid or exaggerated, and fed into the foster care system.

This is a situation to destroy traditional families. In the Black community it is a way for us to become extinct. Churches who support traditional family structures will be under attack. Therefore, we need a much broader coalition of families, churches and organizations who are not afraid to turn back the bureaucratic state's appropriation of marriage and children on all fronts. Otherwise, marriage will continue to die off and confusion in our community will rise.

















1 comment:

Anonymous said...

This part has been deleted from the original article in Between the Lines Magazine, 'In the spirit of Building Bridges, the group marching was diverse in gender, race and age."We decided to come out here as a GSA field trip," said Jesus Murillo, 16, who came with two of his friends. "We felt as teenagers we should also strive for equal rights and acceptance among the community... . As a teenager, I feel that my voice should be heard."
Murillo and his friends all attend Churchill High School, and felt that it was important to be visible at the march as LGBT teenagers. They all participated in writing down things to let go of as well. Murillo said he wanted to let go of "Parents who don't accept their children for who they are."
"I wrote that I'm tired of being looked at as abnormal," added his friend Stephanie Cyburt, 15. "I'm not abnormal. I'm perfectly fine being who I am."'
It would be greatly appreciated if you could delete this section from your blog post as well. Thank you.